Monday, August 27, 2007

Conversational English

What do we all spend so much time and money talking about? Cell phone bills are way too high, phone bills in general are ridiculous. What exactly is so important that we must speak about it for hours at a time? My personal guess is trying to understand the last unexplored frontier, relationship. No one understands them, what they are or how they work out. What purpose they serve whether they work out or not. Why we stay in a relationship, why we leave. Why we are in one and want to be in a different one. On and on go the questions without answers. There are those that propose to understand. However if you scratch the surface you generally find a scratched surface, one who has been through bumps and bruises of their own relationships without understanding anything at all. So relationship is the last unexplored, undiscovered country. It seems evident in our world, no one understanding all the effects of all the different species, living and dying. The dissimilarities of different races and religions are enough to kill you. Oh, actually that is what is happening, not a joke. So exploring I go. What are you feeling? What do you think? What are you doing? What do you want. I remember talking to a really great guy who could not find a significant other to be with. He was straight, and wanted a single woman, finding that special someone to be with. I quizzed him about what exactly he was looking for. He started talking, explaining what was important to him, want he thought he wanted in a woman, in a relationship. After a while I just started laughing. He wasn't looking for someone to be with, he was looking for his clone. He wanted someone who liked all the things he did, did all the things he did, wanted to do all the things he did, only a woman so he could have sex too. This people is not a relationship, trust me. What do you think a relationship is?

1 comment:

none said...

I think a relationship is a chance to grow, to stretch in ways previously unknown. Relationships are one of the best mirrors we ever get. Second only to listening to one's body, I relationships are a terrific way to get a peek at oneself. And the closer the relationship, the better the look, because we open up more in closer relationships. Relationships push us when we come up against our edges, and what we do at those tantalizing moments is everything. In _Passionate Marriage_, David Schnarch says that when two people are at their most intense loggerheads, they are at their point of greatest opportunity. This quote sums it up nicely:

“And after that final no there comes a yes. And on that yes the future world depends.”
– Wallace Stevens.

When we set aside our clenched-jaw, unthinking allegiance to outmoded stances that no longer serve us, and we soften our hearts and open, amazing vistas beckon.

- Phil